The Sex Problem

By Tatenda There was something about waking up that never quite agreed with her but she did it anyway, it was part of the contract of being human. This morning, like many others, she woke up smelling like somebody else and trying desperately to silence the accusatory voices in her head. Her only challenge was […]
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Ten Confessions of a Demisexual

By ‘Aimee’ Demisexuality: A person who does not experience sexual attraction until they form a strong emotional connection with someone, often in a romantic relationship. Confession #1: I can’t hold legitimate conversations with my friends about relationships and sex because they just aren’t the same for me. Confession #2: My involuntary celibacy is a side effect of my […]
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Pre – Colonial Igboland: On Woman to Woman Marriage (Repost)

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By Cosmic Yoruba Nwando Achebe writes that “woman-to-woman marriage in Africa has absolutely nothing to do with homosexuality” (emphasis, hers)…and I actually agree with this…kind of. While I strongly believe in pre-colonial lesbian secret societies littered across the African continent, at the risk of falling into the trap of Eurocentric and Western (mis)understanding of African social institutions, it […]
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15 Lesbian rules to break

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By Barbara Ward for KitschMix The opinions about stereotypes are all over the board. Some people think that stereotypes exist to keep us down, and some people think that stereotypes exist to make categorization easier. Personally, I feel that they can be used for your benefit or against it, depending on how they’re applied. Certainly, […]
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