Basically…Life – Ep. 26: The Basic Life of Kgothatso – Casual dating, being a s*x coach & loving your friends deeply
Why are friendships so important? How do you navigate casual dating after years of being in serious relationships?…
Masculinity and Femininity: when pink panties don’t match your tuxedo
By Thamsanqa Scaps Zulu People who don’t understand the word ‘lesbian’ will assume I’m a man trapped in…
Gender & Identity,Politics & Lifestyle
On being a gender outsider
By Sté The more I grow up, the less I feel... womanly. It can be a bit of…
On Gender Roles: “Sister, Who Is the Girl in Your Relationship?”
Helen’s right eye twitched when Amaka rushed ahead of her to open the restaurant door. It twitched some…
Politics & Lifestyle,Sex, Relationships & Love
Pre – Colonial Igboland: On Woman to Woman Marriage (Repost)
Nwando Achebe writes that “woman-to-woman marriage in Africa has absolutely nothing to do with homosexuality” (emphasis, hers)…and I actually agree…
Gender & Identity,Sex, Relationships & Love
The Clitoris: Dope Facts You Should Know
Oh we do love the clit. The clitoris is an erogenous zone located in the vulva. It is…
Sub, Munch and Consent: Kink Terms To Get You Started
Over the years more and more folx have become interested in kink so we at HOLAA! decided to…
Sexting Etiquette 101: How to Send Your Juicy Bits Digitally and Safely
Notification comes up. It’s a new photo from bae. It is also past midnight, so you know this…
On the Business of Choosing Dears
By Kuukua Dzigbordi Yomekpe It started when she claimed me as her 'Dear' from among the entire first…
Staying in closet as a form of self care (Reblog)
By MaThokoTo a younger me – “Don’t come out, if you don’t want to” Coming out – the act…