‘I thought she wanted me to be a man’: getting into the world of strap-ons
By Nnenna Marcia/ @NnennaMarcia. I’d never tried a strap-on before I met her, not being one for the introduction…
Masculinity and Femininity: when pink panties don’t match your tuxedo
By Thamsanqa Scaps Zulu People who don’t understand the word ‘lesbian’ will assume I’m a man trapped in…
Gender & Identity,Politics & Lifestyle
On being a gender outsider
By Sté The more I grow up, the less I feel... womanly. It can be a bit of…
On Gender Roles: “Sister, Who Is the Girl in Your Relationship?”
Helen’s right eye twitched when Amaka rushed ahead of her to open the restaurant door. It twitched some…
Politics & Lifestyle,Sex, Relationships & Love
Pre – Colonial Igboland: On Woman to Woman Marriage (Repost)
Nwando Achebe writes that “woman-to-woman marriage in Africa has absolutely nothing to do with homosexuality” (emphasis, hers)…and I actually agree…
Gender & Identity,Sex, Relationships & Love
The Clitoris: Dope Facts You Should Know
Oh we do love the clit. The clitoris is an erogenous zone located in the vulva. It is…
Sub, Munch and Consent: Kink Terms To Get You Started
Over the years more and more folx have become interested in kink so we at HOLAA! decided to…
Sexting Etiquette 101: How to Send Your Juicy Bits Digitally and Safely
Notification comes up. It’s a new photo from bae. It is also past midnight, so you know this…
Staying in closet as a form of self care (Reblog)
By MaThokoTo a younger me – “Don’t come out, if you don’t want to” Coming out – the act…
Afro Sexual Politics,Afro Sexual Wisdom
Put Some Respec’ on It: Navigating the World of Pronouns
The world is a lovely and colourful place with such diversity like gender and gender expression. Understanding how…