“I can’t fix the cabinet/cables for the TV/leaking toilet. We’ll have to wait for her to come over.” Your girlfriend and other women believe you are some sort of handyman. Just when you thought y’all were all women.
Some people think you are actually a man. They mistakenly call you “sir” and say ‘he’. They are also surprised when you provide identification and you are not a man (i.e. at airports, check points etc).
Sexists have beef with you. Just because you do not fit into the mold of “conventional female”. How dare you not embody femininity? What they do not realise is that there are many ways to be a woman or man.
Everyone knows you are a lesbian/queer. Is this even a hustle? But when you live in a homophobic country, it becomes a hustle.
Femme feminists have beef with you. They be like, “I would not want to date a stud. They perpetuate that idea of heteronomativity, as prescribed by patriarchy…” Lots of big grammar.
Stereotypes. Stereotypes. Stereotypes. People freak out when you like ‘girly’ things. They are confused when you decide to wear makeup or fix your nails. They expect you not to cry.
Homophobes, especially homophobic women, are wary of you. They just get put off by you, because your gay is showing.
If you can relate, you know the hustle is real. Very, very real.
P.S. Just in case someone asks you when you became a lesbian or how did you know you were a lesbian, kindly ask them when they became hetero. Also ask how they knew they were hetero. We can all be petty as fuck.