Posted By HOLAA
On Sep 23, 2017
We had an online conversation about abuse including sexual, emotional and physical abuse. The idea was to have an array of people speaking about abuse in queer corners and essential lift the ‘cloak of silence covering it’. We invited people and organisations from around the continent to tweet about this topic, and share knowledge, experiences and insight whilst also taking away the shame and silence that comes with the topic. We would like to thank everyone who was brave enough to engage with the topic, and even those who couldn’t.
With over 800 posts and 119 users tweeting about this the #QueeringTheCloak hashtag managed to get over 2 million impressions in various countries. Thank you for everyone who managed to come through for the conversation.
Here are some of the tweets.
We are quite dishonest about the social capital of abusers and how that affects how we respond #Queeringthecloak https://t.co/KCHTXbUIT1
— Queen of mgowo (@miz_thabz) September 19, 2017
I’ve witnessed violence in queer spaces. By queer activists and I wonder if we call out our faves in this #QueeringTheCloak
— Ndumi (@Leave_the_candy) September 19, 2017
We must be clear that these structures cannot work when we shield abusers .. We need to hold people accountable #Queeringthecloak https://t.co/sm0SjFtRTW
— Queen of mgowo (@miz_thabz) September 19, 2017
Because LGBTQI communities are tight-knit, survivors may not know where to turn to for help for fear of not being believed #QueeringTheCloak
— Pamela Adie (@biwomdz) September 19, 2017
I guess it’s difficult to come forward when you are already told you living a crime #QueeringTheCloak
— Elile (@EllyCiciCarter) September 19, 2017
Same sex violence exists. Can we dispel the idea of “how can another girl hit you” #QueeringTheCloak
— Ndumi (@Leave_the_candy) September 19, 2017
I believe power plays a bigger role on violence in the Queer community #QueeringTheCloak. Research in Kenya https://t.co/L0b98HjCdn
— Essy (@Essy_Emilly) September 19, 2017
#QueeringTheCloak Some of us don’t even know we’re being abusive
We must constantly check ourselves &interrogate our behaviour & intentions
— Lyricnotic (@Lyricnotic) September 19, 2017
What does an abuser look like? Look in the mirror.
Unresolved trauma & issues manifest. Get help before you hurt others.
— Lyricnotic (@Lyricnotic) September 19, 2017
How many times have we thought that sum1 shouldn’t be vocal on abuse bcz it compromises a prominent feminist or activist? #QueeringTheCloak
— One In Nine Campaign (@1in9_Campaign) September 19, 2017
I believe power plays a bigger role on violence in the Queer community #QueeringTheCloak. Research in Kenya https://t.co/L0b98HjCdn
— Essy (@Essy_Emilly) September 19, 2017
We tend to practice patriarchy within the queer community and therefore abuse not reported #QueeringTheCloak
— Essy (@Essy_Emilly) September 19, 2017
Sexual abuse within queer relationships. Hhayi ke #Queeringthecloak pic.twitter.com/EJXJ5xkaJD
— Ndumi (@Leave_the_candy) September 19, 2017
The ACHPR adopted a Resolution calling for states to do more to prevent violence against #SOGIE: https://t.co/oKRgdGcbxn #QueeringTheCloak https://t.co/TukWc7bXMg
— CAL Secretariat (@CALAdvocacy) September 19, 2017
Within the LGBTQ community, transgender people and bisexual women face the most alarming rates of sexual violence. (CDC) #QueeringTheCloak
— Pamela Adie (@biwomdz) September 19, 2017
Say NO to the silence and shame surrounding sexual assault among queer communities. #QueeringTheCloak
— Mwa_Kenya (@mwa_kenya) September 19, 2017
Sexual assault affects everyone incluing lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, intersex, and Queer people. #QueeringTheCloak
— Pamela Adie (@biwomdz) September 19, 2017
Here is a storify of the conversation:
This was part of our #QueeringTheCloak series.
For all the articles and pieces on #QueeringTheCloak click here. Also an article on 11 Signs You Are being Gaslight in a relationship and another 10 things the author learned from someone using gaslighting as an abuse tactic. Here is an article about missing your abuser. For more on supporting people here is a piece on supporting someone in abusive relationship and also a piece where the woman says At least she didn’t hit me”.