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Sexy Selfies: A Cheat Sheet for Sending Safe Nudes

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On Feb 21, 2019

Do not send unsolicited genital pics: Yes you think your juicy bits are tasty but before you send them on make sure that the other person:

a. Agrees

b. Wants to be part of that tasty event. Ask before sending nudes.

Do not put your face in the pictures: Angles and artistic concepts are your friend. Staring straight into the camera whilst butt naked is not a good idea (and mirror selfies are also not the most flattering). It’s either the ‘eyes or the prize’ in this case. Never both.

Edit out distinguishable markers: Tattoos, moles, birthmarks and the like do not need to feature when you are sending nudes. Use a photo editor to remove them or avoid having them in the photo all together. There are also apps that help obscure parts of a picture to keep it anonymous.

Show me yours if I show you mine: If someone has your pics insist on having theirs in return. Not for the purpose of sharing their nudes if they leak yours but for them to stop and think “  they have my nudes so let me take care of theirs”

Do not be forced to send nudes: send nudes because you want to. Never EVER feel pressured to send nudes to anyone.

Mark and track your pics: When you send your nudes to different people put a different watermark for each person so if they leak you know who did it for sure.

Trust is key: Sending nudes is about trust because having someone with pictures of your bare ass leaves you vulnerable. Do not take the trust factor lightly, send them only to those who you feel would protect you and your images.

Use platforms that automatically delete photos and encrypt messages: Spaces such as Instagram and SnapChat have ‘self destruct’ aspects when it comes to photos. Cover Me also allows for encrypted messages. Granted you cannot stop someone screen-shotting them but at least you know there is a time limit on the pics. Research available platforms that make sending safer.

Be wary of the infamous screenshot: Even if photos are automatically deleted from certain platforms the screenshot is still the biggest weakness to anyone’s sexting game. Never forget about the screen shot when deciding whether to send nudes or not.

The cloud is not your friend: Do not store your images on digital platforms. Ever. There are enough horror stories of peoples nudes being leaked after their online storage was hacked. Do not be one of them.

Keep your photos under lock and key: There are lots of apps and ways to keep your pics under passwords. You can put them in a protected folder and make sure the person you blessed with them does the same just in case you lose your phone or device.

Data scrub the photo: When you send a photo it gets sent with a whole bunch of information like the date and time the photo was taken, the device ID, camera settings, and thumbnail image and description. Research  how to get rid of this stuff so the photo cannot be tracked back to you.

Remember the consequences: Much as sending nudes can be fun, having them leaked often isn’t. Also, sadly women are far more affected than men when it comes to having their lives turned upside down by things like revenge porn. This is something to think about before you press send.

Know that you are magic: You. Look. Amazing. Sweetie. Remember that. These nude selfies are fire and you should be proud of them. Sizzling to say the least!

Check out Coding Rights: Send Safe Nudes Project for more info.

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