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By Tatenda 

Not Lesbian: I’m attracted to and desire women, but not exclusively.

Not Heterosexual: I date men, but not exclusively.

Not Bisexual: I don’t subscribe to the gender binary.

Not Pansexual: I can’t say that I am something that I do not fully understand or practise.


Me: So what am I?

Bigot: A slut!

Me: Queer isn’t it?


A multi-dimensional light being having a very human experience. Welcome to the corridors of my mind. Connect with me: HelloQueenNzinga@gmail,com
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    Hrh Elizabeth F Obisanya
    27th Jun 2013 - 1:49 pm

    Lesbina says : when you have been weaned off off the dick& had all of your babies etc then see whether you is hetero or not.

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      27th Jun 2013 - 2:52 pm

      Are you trying to emphasize the bigot’s message? Are you saying that women can’t have dicks or that men can’t have vaginas? Are you saying that any sort of attraction or identity that you do not understand is invalid? What are you saying?

      We maintain that every piece is subject to interpretation however hurling insults at somebody’s experience is unacceptable. If you want to engage in discussions about gender, identity and sexual orientation then please do so in a constructive way because your opinion will always be welcome.

      Also remember that identity is too fluid to be policed. It’s never a good idea to limit people to what you understand of them… ever.

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    SassyMs Sharon
    27th Jun 2013 - 8:40 pm

    Lesbian IS a label …woman is a label….my given name is my label…I’m really not sure what the big deal is all about with the label thing…but I like all of my labels…people are going to label you no matter how hard you fight against it…I think it’s a worthless fight…every thing on planet earth that has a name has a label…We are shunned by heterosexuals..<—label. Then within our own Gay Community<—-label…We then don't want to identify with any one thing or another so then we call ourselves "no labels" <—-and yet another label…This is why we cant all come together and progress with things that are important like…Same sex marriage, and HIV / AIDS , Gay Teen suicide…It makes me want to scream at every LGBT to get their heads out of their own asses and put all that energy they give to worthlessness and "Do" something productive within the Gay and Lesbian community …MAKE A DIFFERENCE…because after you get done ranting about something as petty as a label…You are still a homosexual…and guess what…you still a label.

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      27th Jun 2013 - 10:25 pm

      Have you ever considered how powerful the act of self-definition is?

      In a world where black women have been spoken for and grouped into some amorphous collective the very ACT of asserting oneself is brave. It shows a willingness to stand outside of convention and hold what you say to be true and relevant and worthy because it is true to who you are.

      It is the very people who won’t let the world or any sub-category or expectations define them that have the potential to change the world. Why? Because they stand in their truth and are willing to be persecuted for it.

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    27th Jun 2014 - 10:05 am

    …and this is why I, too, prefer to identify as queer.
    As to a previous comment that labels are inescapable: I think I see some of your point. I think it’s important, however, that all lables are questioned and treated critically, and that nobody has the right to impose such a label on another.
    Each person has the right to choose how and as what they identify.

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