Question: If you have never been penetrated but have had tonnes are you still a virgin? What about touch me not dykes and gold star lesbians? What is their virginity status? Also, what about the fact that you can lose your hymen from riding a bike? At the end of the day what does this […]

By Lebohang Mojapelo *Trigger Warning: suicidal thoughts* “Relationships with people, I’ve learned, are like the weather; there are sunny days, and then the rainy ones too, only most of mine were either hurricanes or cyclones that could tear a man in two or vicious heat waves that dried me of feeling much of anything at […]

Now sometimes you can have your nether regions set on fire, sometime they can be left ice cold, we sat down and spoke to Thabile about how to make it the former rather than the later. We spoke about getting the sex that you want because as women orgasms and pleasure are part of the […]

There’s no denying that mental health is highly stigmatized in communities of color. Thankfully, stigma hasn’t stopped these therapists from spreading awareness through their mental health podcasts. Check out 5 dope podcasts by therapists of color. A Different Perspective HOSTED BY DR. AMBER THORNTON Therapy For Black Girls HOSTED BY DR. JOY HARDEN BRADFORD You […]

Why can I not be masculine presenting and squirt? Why does my dyke swag mean that I have to initiate sex? When is it my turn to have the dildo inside me? When can I have my turn with the strap on? Can I be a pillow princess and rock these dope jeans? These are […]

We sat down with one of our loves and spoke about the effect that mental health can have on your sex life. From the need to speak about it to the fact that sometimes a manic episode can show its self in risky sexual behavior, this podcast got emotional, it was sometimes a lot, but […]

Have you ever tried to have that conversation with your parents. About squishy bits, orgasms, wetness, love making, bumping uglies, that sexy time? Was it successful? Probably not and if it was congratulations to YOU! In this podcast we break down the experiences of speaking about sex with African parents and why sometimes, it just […]

So you walk into a bar, looking cute as anything and think ‘tonight is the night’. Except it isn’t, because again 1. none of the women in there notice you because you are very femme or 2. Notice you but think you are straight. Femme invisibility is a problem people and femme flagging could be […]

We love Guys We F**ked – which is an anti-slut shaming podcast- and it was  so incredible when one of our HOLAArites reached out to us  saying they had been on the podcast and asked us to host it! Lwantale Kalemera, who is from the Bay Area in San Francisco, California (but her family is originally from […]

When women talk about sex one can’t help but stop and listen. The rise of women speaking about sex is something many, including  the internet, cannot ignore and African women are not lagging far behind. From platforms hosting stories about bad sex, and ‘entering through the back door’ to podcasts discussing faking orgasms; women on […]