Ten Confessions of a Demisexual

By ‘Aimee’ Demisexuality: A person who does not experience sexual attraction until they form a strong emotional connection with someone, often in a romantic relationship. Confession #1: I can’t hold legitimate conversations with my friends about relationships and sex because they just aren’t the same for me. Confession #2: My involuntary celibacy is a side effect of my […]
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Pre – Colonial Igboland: On Woman to Woman Marriage (Repost)

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By Cosmic Yoruba Nwando Achebe writes that “woman-to-woman marriage in Africa has absolutely nothing to do with homosexuality” (emphasis, hers)…and I actually agree with this…kind of. While I strongly believe in pre-colonial lesbian secret societies littered across the African continent, at the risk of falling into the trap of Eurocentric and Western (mis)understanding of African social institutions, it […]
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Crushed cans and broken glasses

By Lickle They stop and stare I hear their “silent whispers” They say I’m a disgrace to society They say I’m fast tracking my way to hell. Fake friends keep their distance afraid I might derail them from their straightness They don’t understand how a woman can love another woman They don’t understand how my […]
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Durban Pride 2016

Durban pride this year was a collection of colour and cool people as the LGBTIQ community within the area came together to celebrate, have a few drinks, have a few laughs and bring to light issues close to them. Braving the sometimes wet KZN weather the march continued through Snell Parade, right near the beach […]
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