‘I thought she wanted me to be a man’: getting into the world of strap ons (Repost)

Sex toys, strapons, HOLAAfrica
By Nnenna Marcia/ @NnennaMarcia. I’d never tried a strap-on before I met her, not being one for the introduction of a phallus into lesbian love affairs. I considered myself a ‘pure lesbian’ or at least pure in terms of not having any instruments that resembled the male organ involved in my pleasure. Such symbols felt like cheating […]
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Socio-sexual anxiety

By Fayth/ @faythnw “Women in this culture live with sexual fear like an extra skin. Each of us wears it differently depending on our race, class, sexual preference and community, but from birth we have all been taught our lessons well. Sexuality is dangerous. It is frightening, unexplored, and threatening… Many of us become feminists because of […]
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Why Adult Novelty Toys Matter

By Madame Butterfly/ @naijadesires I get asked all sorts of questions as the owner of a small business Intimate Pleasures Desires of the Heart  www.myintimatepleasureshop.com that caters to the provision of adult novelty toys for people in intimate relationships here in Lagos. Adult novelty toys can be an exciting way to add some zing to your […]
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HOLAA! Loves: SEXPO

The SEXPO was freaky. The SEXPO was durrrrtyyyy. The SEXPO was fabulous. Despite being geared towards the male species there were a few  somethings for the ladies including a number of strip shows, a ladies lounge and the Pharaohs Fantasy Club which sought to allow ladies to explore their sexuality. The biggest coup for women […]
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