By Yolanda S. I am a lover and not a fighter. I love love and enjoy being in love. I believe in the true elements and fundamentals of love and respect the fact that one should not “admit impediments as love is not love which alters when it alteration finds, or bends with the remover […]
By Lame We had dinner. It was my birthday and such a delightful evening I laughed at everything she said and gleamed as much as the twinkle in her eyes. Watching her was the only thing I wanted to do. She was my fascination and I know she enjoyed the fact. I didn’t eat much. […]
By Siphu Patriarchal norms permeate all aspects of our lives. You walk out of your door and are reminded that you are not a man. Regardless of what you are wearing you will be accosted by the male gaze stripping you bare with their eyes. “Ekse baby, come here come”…if you are liked. The unfortunate […]
By Kagure I witnessed fear. Not the heart pounding gut wrenching, ‘the serial killer is inside the house’ type fear but something far deeper.
By Lame Living in a world where you are always considered the “other” is a constant denial of your right to be alive and the right to express yourself as you wish. Being the “other” means that your every action is judged by stricter judges against stricter standards. Being lesbian in an unyielding culture means […]
By Nthabiseng I’d like to think that it’s because I have not been on this earth long enough, it at least leaves room for a possible future encounter with such individuals so I will not say never but in the years that I’ve lived and the people that I’ve met, I have not yet come […]
By Kagure Stop knocking bi girls. The arguments against us are nonsense. For one we are often more committed than lesbians. OK that may not necessarily be true but we are certainly no more rogue than them. We are judged on who we have the possibility of loving or being attracted to. The fact that […]
By Kagure I am fearfully and wonderfully made. That is why you fear me and cannot understand how I am made. What you do understand is how to react and pass judgment on the final product. Before you condemn me to my fate answer me a few questions… Were you there when I was formed? […]
By Kagure Apparently I have worse gaydar than the homophobes in my family. This is not something I am willing to take very lightly. Twice in one holiday I have been sitting in my cocoon of self knowledge only to be told by two separate family members that they have known for ages that I […]
By Siphu Who is the man and who is the woman in the relationship? One would assume that the moment you are in a relationship with another woman the gender performance becomes simple, you are two women after all. But the question keeps coming up over and over. Who is the man and who is […]