Ten Confessions of a Demisexual

By ‘Aimee’ Demisexuality: A person who does not experience sexual attraction until they form a strong emotional connection with someone, often in a romantic relationship. Confession #1: I can’t hold legitimate conversations with my friends about relationships and sex because they just aren’t the same for me. Confession #2: My involuntary celibacy is a side effect of my […]
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Pre – Colonial Igboland: On Woman to Woman Marriage (Repost)

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By Cosmic Yoruba Nwando Achebe writes that “woman-to-woman marriage in Africa has absolutely nothing to do with homosexuality” (emphasis, hers)…and I actually agree with this…kind of. While I strongly believe in pre-colonial lesbian secret societies littered across the African continent, at the risk of falling into the trap of Eurocentric and Western (mis)understanding of African social institutions, it […]
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What is Lesbian Now?

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By Kagure Mugo You try to tell her about Foucault and “theories of identity,”  but she asks if Foucault is your husband. Suddenly all those hours spent in a lecture hall doing gender courses seem powerless against the sheer titanium force that is the gates of her mind, a mind tempered by 80-plus years of […]
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In The Zone

By Zamangwane Kanyile In the zone we dart around each other like toddlers whose legs are still learning to balance their weight We move around wide eyed wondering who will let out first. When the rain hits your skin melting you down with it You’ve become a lifeless leaf As it lands on the ground you […]
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Herstory

By Sibongile Oageng K I was once told I’d never find a man to marry me. Apparently, I am too stubborn and feisty, too proud and opinionated or too loud and liberated. Initially, it didn’t bother me. I was like, “it’s fine, I don’t mind. I’m independent”. But then I started thinking about it and the […]
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