“We do not want her kind here” – Finding queer belonging in a Ghanaian immigrant community

HOLAA, HOLAAfrica, Posts, Queer, Africa, Ithongomusings, Photography, LGBTIQ, Queer Women of colour,
By Anima Adjepong / @amankrado “Is this one of your daughter’s friends?” I overheard a woman I did not know ask in a language I only vaguely understand. To the woman’s relief, her interlocutor, let’s call her Auntie Ama, responded no. “Good, because we do not want her kind here,” she said. This exchange was […]
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‘At least she did not hit me’

Siphumeze Khundayi, Ithongo Musings, Queer, QWOC, same sex abuse, #QueeringTheCloak
By Ekuba *Trigger Warning: physical and emotional abuse* It’s Easter Sunday and I’m not nestled into my partner’s chest or dreaming of chocolate covered Easter eggs. I am pounding the streets of Toronto in the cold, searching for any place that is open at this ungodly hour. Then my emotional-eater self enters a diner and […]
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I am tired of bad sex

HOLAAfrica, HOLAA
By Ruby Woo I am tired of bad sex. Now don’t get me wrong: throughout my twenties, I have had some of the most adventurous and thrilling sexual experiences . But this period also came with some very awkward, uncomfortable and downright dis-pleasurable sexual encounters. And unfortunately, for many women dating cisgender straight men, this […]
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Where is your husband?

HOLAAfrica, HOLAA, Black women
By Kuukua Dzigbordi Yomekpe “Hi! My name is Antoinette. I’m forty. I’m independent, single and happy.” “Hi Antoinette! Welcome,” a chorus of women’s voices responds. “Em…hello? My name is Kuukua…this is my first meeting. Oh…and I’m thirty-four.” “Hi Kuukua! Welcome.” A chorus of women’s voices respond yet again. “Welcome to WWISH, Kuukua, a place for […]
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