Should the transgender community be exempt from practicing consent?

Beneath The Same Silence, Drama For Life, SexActually, QueeringTheCloak
By Kylie Kiunguyu  Trigger Warning: physical violence (Editor’s Note: As HOLAA! we are sensitive to a diversity of opinions but also understand how something like this can be triggering. This is a very delicate topic and we invite responses in the comments or in article form. This post is a reblog.) Consent is the basis for […]
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By Tshegofatso Senne Disclaimer: Littered with triggers. *This is a post I wrote for earlier in 2014 and it’s still close to my heart. In South Africa, the continuous occurrences of rape and sexual assaults are impossible to ignore. And yet you barely see people discussing this problem head on (unless you have these discussions […]
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Confessions of a sub

By Tshegofatso Senne So a little over two years ago I discovered BDSM. Ha. I had spent years contemplating that little corner of my mind that was always curious about these white women in spandex and leather who wielded crops and whips and had men tied up on the walls of a dark dungeon. I […]
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