HOLAA Loves: Zanele Muholi’s Somnyama Ngonyama Exhibit

We decided to get some art and culture in our lives and went to the Zanele Muholi (@MuholiZanele) Somnyama Ngonyama exhibit in Johannesburg. Her long legacy of photography continued in this exhibt she presents black and white self-portraits taken while travelling in South Africa, America and Europe, Somnyama Ngonyama (meaning ‘Hail, the Dark Lioness’) confronts the […]
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A Love note to Zan

‘Personal is poison. Personal distracts, invites relationships. Let me be no one. Unheard, unseen, unpraised and unloved.’ -Tim Cooper This quote used to be my everyday mantra up until I met her. Zan. Even from afar, she was radiant. Amongst a crowd of women, she was the only one that stood out to me. She […]
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In Defense of Orgasms Faked

By Mélisande Deschenel I believe in fake orgasms. I believe in them for the greater good of the moment. Now do not get me wrong, I do not believe in the over-stretched O, seizure-like, tinnitus-inducing kind. Those are just stupid. They’re patently faked and an insult to any sexual being and they’re at their worst […]
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To be black, lesbian, poor, and diagnosed with mental illness means I cannot always exist wholly.

By Thenjiwe/ @TeaJay_001 In the book, Sister Outsider by Audre Lorde, the introduction speaks of Lorde’s interlocking struggle of being black, a mother to two sons, and a lesbian. Re-reading this introduction, this was as far as I could go. Perhaps, it was because as I write this I am feeling exceptionally fragile. I still fail to find the […]
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