The Death That Is You

By Ashes  *Trigger warning: sexual assault, self harm You are the death of me. If I had another opportunity to love you again I would do so without any hesitation or fear. I would love you despite the nagging feeling that all was not well, I would love you more than maintaining a healthy bank […]
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HOLAA Loves: Zanele Muholi’s Somnyama Ngonyama Exhibit

We decided to get some art and culture in our lives and went to the Zanele Muholi (@MuholiZanele) Somnyama Ngonyama exhibit in Johannesburg. Her long legacy of photography continued in this exhibt she presents black and white self-portraits taken while travelling in South Africa, America and Europe, Somnyama Ngonyama (meaning ‘Hail, the Dark Lioness’) confronts the […]
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A Love note to Zan

‘Personal is poison. Personal distracts, invites relationships. Let me be no one. Unheard, unseen, unpraised and unloved.’ -Tim Cooper This quote used to be my everyday mantra up until I met her. Zan. Even from afar, she was radiant. Amongst a crowd of women, she was the only one that stood out to me. She […]
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In Defense of Orgasms Faked

By Mélisande Deschenel I believe in fake orgasms. I believe in them for the greater good of the moment. Now do not get me wrong, I do not believe in the over-stretched O, seizure-like, tinnitus-inducing kind. Those are just stupid. They’re patently faked and an insult to any sexual being and they’re at their worst […]
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