Life of a Transgender Sex worker
She was born in 1979 in a small and religious coloured community in Steenberg, a suburb about 20kms from Cape Town’s city centre. She grew up in her grandparents’ house. Her grandfather was one of the local Imams , meaning his status in the community, made it difficult for her to live openly as a young woman.
Her grandmother mostly understood, her grandfather struggled. He would often ask, “can’t you walk like a man? Can’t you take a hammer and nail for once?”
Leigh ran away from home to live in the city centre at 14 with a bag of clothes and two five rand notes. She met a woman on the train who also identified as trans* and it was this woman who introduced her to the sex industry. Leigh has worked as a sex worker for the past 22 years. She says that when she arrived in the city centre, she was faced with three choices to survive: sleep on the streets, steal or become a sex worker. Sex work, according to Leigh, has given her the financial freedom that she needed in order to be herself.
However, this is a freedom that can only be achieved through deception. She says that “society, religion and family” constrain her. As she puts it, “sometimes we [trans* people] have to do devilish things in order to be ourselves … this is where it gets weird”.
Leigh’s clients are exclusively male. Some of them know that she is transgendered, and are okay with it, and some of them do not know.
“The way to get a straight man to believe that you are…a woman,” says Leigh, “is to undergo ‘the transformation’. Your entire being changes including your posture, eye contact, walk and voice.”
“Don’t throw your body around [like a man]”, she says. “Everything has to work perfectly”. Life and livelihood depend on it.
Once she gets into a client’s car, her act is put to the test. One wrong move could lead to a very dangerous situation. Once she has been picked up, she tries to get her client to “cum quickly, so that he won’t want sex”. If he does want sex, then “you will need to do everything to get his attention away from the parts that he thinks are your breasts and vagina, so he will continue to believe that you’re a woman”.
She demonstrated a number of techniques for achieving this, which she says she has used many times before. According to Leigh, “You pull out every stalling tactic you can think of to avoid doing the business”. This includes dimming the lights, wearing up to six layers of clothing, keeping on top of the client, and anything else that allows Leigh to control the encounter. If the client wants full sex, then she will have anal sex with them, with the client still believing that she is a woman.
What happens when the client finds out, also known as ‘the discovery’?
“Think fast, speak fast and move fast, and only in that order”. She recounted a number of personal, and other, stories of how some clients become extremely violent when they find out that she is trans*. On some occasions she has had clients pull guns on her.
Leigh says that life as a transgender female sex worker is traumatic, harsh and difficult for most people to understand. “But people must see how we have to live in order to be ourselves,” she says.
Leigh says that she goes to mosque once in a while. When she does, she goes as “God made her” (as a male). She believes God accepts her. Otherwise how would she have survived such difficult life experiences, she asks.
Posted originally on GroundUp.org.za