‘At least she did not hit me’

Siphumeze Khundayi, Ithongo Musings, Queer, QWOC, same sex abuse, #QueeringTheCloak
By Ekuba *Trigger Warning: physical and emotional abuse* It’s Easter Sunday and I’m not nestled into my partner’s chest or dreaming of chocolate covered Easter eggs. I am pounding the streets of Toronto in the cold, searching for any place that is open at this ungodly hour. Then my emotional-eater self enters a diner and […]
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The Sex Problem

By Tatenda There was something about waking up that never quite agreed with her but she did it anyway, it was part of the contract of being human. This morning, like many others, she woke up smelling like somebody else and trying desperately to silence the accusatory voices in her head. Her only challenge was […]
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A Meal

HOLAAfrica, HOLAA,
By Baby Dyke “You are not eating.” It had been her idea to come to this place, I would have settled for a decent burger and some wine. Furthermore, with the plans I had in mind, it would have been better if we were home. She cleared her throat, licked her lips and a pang […]
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QUEERING LOVE PART II: Love in the time of patriarchy

By Bel South Fight the patriarchy! (In your own home) Fighting the patriarchy, the straight-thinking upward mobility-obsessed power-hungry patriarchy, is a mission.   There are so many ripe examples at hand: The Big-bullied Penis-swinging Trump-Zuma’s of the world, violently and deafeningly taking up valuable resources, mind-space and heart-space; The Patronising Boss, who, on a daily […]
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Staying in the closet as self care

HOLAA, HOLAAfrica, Posts, Queer, Africa, Ithongomusings, Photography, LGBTIQ, Queer Women of colour,
By MaThoko To a younger me – “Don’t come out, if you don’t want to” Coming out – the act of announcing, publicising/disclosing or declaring your sexuality has been a staple of LGBTI activism and advocacy since the 1970s. Promoted by the Gay Liberation Front – a collective of gay groups – coming out was utilised as a […]
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Une Pride Africaine ?

HOLAA, IDAHOT, LGBT Africa, Lesotho
Une Pride Africaine ? en Anglais Le mois de Juin était le mois de la Pride LGBTIQ+ (aussi appelée fierté LGBT), un moment particulier pendant lequel le drapeau arc-en-ciel est brandi et les membres de la communauté LGBTIQ+ et leurs alliés paradent dans les rues pour célébrer les diversités sexuelles. Pour beaucoup, la Pride équivaut à […]
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