On being a gender outsider

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By Sté The more I grow up, the less I feel… womanly. It can be a bit of a surprise to most of the people who’ve seen the skirt – wearing, nail – polish-ed, glitter-and-all-types-of-sweetness person that I am. Wherever I go, in all the spaces I’ve been in, queer or not, I have always […]
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Troubled mind

African LGBTI, Queer Women, Sexual Assault
By anonymous Trigger Warning: Suicide My heart is beating fast. My palms are sweating. I sit down and take deep breaths. I can’t really think. Well, except for one thing. I can’t even say it out loud. To be honest I’m scared. I’m unable to talk yet I want people to see the turmoil wrecking […]
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For the timid one

HOLAAfrica, HOLAA
By Anon This one is for the timid girl, the naïve child. It is for the me of last year. The girl who was quick to say, “I don’t trust anyone” but still blindly gave her trust away like free hand-outs. The girl who got a stinging notice that the community she thought was hers […]
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Ten Confessions of a Demisexual

demisexual, HOLAAfrica, African sexualities
By ‘Aimee’ Demisexuality: A person who does not experience sexual attraction until they form a strong emotional connection with someone, often in a romantic relationship. Confession #1: I can’t hold legitimate conversations with my friends about relationships and sex because they just aren’t the same for me. Confession #2: My involuntary celibacy is a side effect of my […]
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Queer: Irie for the Straight Gyal

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By Sibongile Oageng K For most of my Life, Queerness was never a concept I associated with myself. It was always something with which I was familiar, yet comfortably detached. I was an ally, safely fighting from behind the wings but never on the brightly lit stage for everyone to see. This way, I wasn’t personally […]
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