By Kagure Dear Family, This is one of those letters. Where you don’t know where to start because you’re scared that to start this will spell the end of something else. Normalcy for one. The way you view me for another.
By Siphu Patriarchal norms permeate all aspects of our lives. You walk out of your door and are reminded that you are not a man. Regardless of what you are wearing you will be accosted by the male gaze stripping you bare with their eyes. “Ekse baby, come here come”…if you are liked. The unfortunate […]
By Nthabiseng I’d like to think that it’s because I have not been on this earth long enough, it at least leaves room for a possible future encounter with such individuals so I will not say never but in the years that I’ve lived and the people that I’ve met, I have not yet come […]
By Kagure Stop knocking bi girls. The arguments against us are nonsense. For one we are often more committed than lesbians. OK that may not necessarily be true but we are certainly no more rogue than them. We are judged on who we have the possibility of loving or being attracted to. The fact that […]
By Kagure Apparently I have worse gaydar than the homophobes in my family. This is not something I am willing to take very lightly. Twice in one holiday I have been sitting in my cocoon of self knowledge only to be told by two separate family members that they have known for ages that I […]
By Siphu Who is the man and who is the woman in the relationship? One would assume that the moment you are in a relationship with another woman the gender performance becomes simple, you are two women after all. But the question keeps coming up over and over. Who is the man and who is […]
By Siphu I stand here to proclaim a love so deadly A love that whispers “look at that fucking dyke pretending to be a man” in my ears as I lay in bed at night a love that I have spent years of my existence willing and praying away yet still remains Waldo, a gay […]