HOLAA Loves: Talking sex with African parents with Mbongomuffin and Black Women Be Like (Podcast)

Have you ever tried to have that conversation with your parents. About squishy bits, orgasms, wetness, love making, bumping uglies, that sexy time? Was it successful? Probably not and if it was congratulations to YOU! In this podcast we break down the experiences of speaking about sex with African parents and why sometimes, it just […]
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Revisiting the essay ‘Homosexuality is ‘unafrican’ in pre-colonial history’

By Cosmic Yoruba I wrote the essay, “Homosexuality is “unAfrican” in pre-colonial history” a couple of years ago. Thanks to HOLAA!, this essay has gained a lot of views and comments, people reaching out to me on Twitter and via email wanting to learn more or just thanking me. I’ll always be grateful for these […]
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Consent

By Tshegofatso Senne Disclaimer: Littered with triggers. *This is a post I wrote for umuntokanje.co.za earlier in 2014 and it’s still close to my heart. In South Africa, the continuous occurrences of rape and sexual assaults are impossible to ignore. And yet you barely see people discussing this problem head on (unless you have these discussions […]
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Faire son coming-out : quelques conseils utiles (coming out to loved ones: a short guide)

Faire son coming-out est probablement l’une des choses les plus difficiles que l’on est à faire. C’est une tâche pénible, terrifiante et super angoissante. Vous laissez l’angoisse s’accumuler pendant longtemps avant d’avoir le courage de le faire. Pour certains, faire son coming-out n’est rien d’autre qu’une corvée sociale ; quelque chose d’agaçant à faire, oui, mais […]
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