The paradoxes of polyamory

I love to pontificate on what the cool kids are doing and their funky trends, such as hipster hats and cool round glasses. But the fad that has floored me is the rise and rise of polyamory and open relationships.  Polyamory is the philosophy or state of being in love or romantically involved with more […]
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#QueeringTheCloak: Twitter Conversation

HOLAA, HOLAAfrica, Posts, Queer, Africa, Ithongomusings, Photography, LGBTIQ, Queer Women of colour,
We had an online conversation about abuse including sexual, emotional and physical abuse. The idea was to have an array of people speaking about abuse in queer corners and essential lift the ‘cloak of silence covering it’. We invited people and organisations from around the continent to tweet about this topic, and share knowledge, experiences and insight […]
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HOLAA Loves: Beneath The Same Silence- A performance piece on intimate partner violence in a queer woman’s relationship

Beneath The Same Silence, Drama For Life, SexActually, QueeringTheCloak
Can a woman really abuse another woman? Can’t you just…fight it out? Intimate partner violence is not something many imagine happens in same-sex relationships but it does. Beneath the Same Silence explores this dark hidden realm by taking you on the emotional journey of a woman in an abusive relationship. The performance ‘queers the cloak’ […]
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في ظل غياب المساءلة (In the absence of accountability)

HOLAA, HOLAAfrica, Posts, Queer, Africa, Ithongomusings, Photography, LGBTIQ, Queer Women of colour,
For the English please click here. Translation by Sahrwardy لقد اعتقدت أن العلاقات التي تربطنا كانت أكثر من صداقة، ولم أفكر حقًا في الصداقات التي شكّلناها بأنها الشيء الذي جمعنا معًا، بل بصفتها نتيجة اجتماعنا معًا بسبب قيمنا، واعتقاداتنا القوية في عقيدتنا النسوية واللانمطية الجنسية الجذرية (الكويرية الراديكالية)، وعقيدتنا أن أجسادنا ملكنا، وأننا نستحق أن نشعر […]
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In the Absence of Accountability: A queer woman’s rape in feminist spaces

Siphumeze Khundayi, Ithongo Musings, Queer, QWOC, same sex abuse, #QueeringTheCloak
By SuperNova Trigger warning: Sexual assault I imagined that what tied us together was more than just friendship. I didn’t really think of the friendships we forged as what brought us together, but rather an outcome of us coming together because of our values, our strong beliefs in a radical queer and feminist ideology. An ideology […]
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