Faire son coming-out : quelques conseils utiles (coming out to loved ones: a short guide)

Faire son coming-out est probablement l’une des choses les plus difficiles que l’on est à faire. C’est une tâche pénible, terrifiante et super angoissante. Vous laissez l’angoisse s’accumuler pendant longtemps avant d’avoir le courage de le faire. Pour certains, faire son coming-out n’est rien d’autre qu’une corvée sociale ; quelque chose d’agaçant à faire, oui, mais […]
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Fighting the demons of a queer black woman

HOLAA, African sexualities
By Thato Semele Homo sapiens as a species have got to be the most self-destructive animals I have ever encountered, what with the countless rules, religious and personal views, opinions and rites of passage and the general overwhelming societal expectations. No wonder the attainment of happiness is a goal seldom reached. We are so consumed […]
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‘I thought she wanted me to be a man’: getting into the world of strap ons (Repost)

Sex toys, strapons, HOLAAfrica
By Nnenna Marcia/ @NnennaMarcia. I’d never tried a strap-on before I met her, not being one for the introduction of a phallus into lesbian love affairs. I considered myself a ‘pure lesbian’ or at least pure in terms of not having any instruments that resembled the male organ involved in my pleasure. Such symbols felt like cheating […]
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