Fighting the demons of a queer black woman

HOLAA, African sexualities
By Thato Semele Homo sapiens as a species have got to be the most self-destructive animals I have ever encountered, what with the countless rules, religious and personal views, opinions and rites of passage and the general overwhelming societal expectations. No wonder the attainment of happiness is a goal seldom reached. We are so consumed […]
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Black Women Be Like and ourselves live tweet quotes about black women faking orgasms under the tag #BlackWomensBigO (Storify)

We slid into the DMs, the whatsapps, private convos and all the intimate spaces to ask women around the continent about whether they had faked orgasms. We got some awesome solid quotes and we loved it! Here they are. Here are some other storifies that we have done. Here is the podcast that inspired this […]
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‘I thought she wanted me to be a man’: getting into the world of strap ons (Repost)

Sex toys, strapons, HOLAAfrica
By Nnenna Marcia/ @NnennaMarcia. I’d never tried a strap-on before I met her, not being one for the introduction of a phallus into lesbian love affairs. I considered myself a ‘pure lesbian’ or at least pure in terms of not having any instruments that resembled the male organ involved in my pleasure. Such symbols felt like cheating […]
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